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How do I give a guy a blowjob?

There is no "right" way to perform oral sex on a person because different things are pleasurable for different people. It's best to take it slowly, try different things out, see what the other person likes or wants, and see what feels good for you as well. You can ask what the person likes, and you can ask if certain things feel good when you are doing them.

There are lots of different ways to give a blowjob to a guy. Oral sex on a guy can include kissing, sucking and licking the penis. Oral sex can also involve kissing or sucking the testicles (balls).

There are a few tips though that are likely to make it a more enjoyable experience for him, and for you.

  • Be enthusiastic. If he feels like giving oral sex is a lot of hard work, or a big favour, or just not pleasurable for you, this will be a turn-off. (But if oral sex really is unpleasant for you or you're just not interested in it, then it's perfectly fine for you not to do it.)
  • Use your lips and tongue. Try not to touch his penis with your teeth, as this can be painful.
  • Most guys enjoy it if the girl (or guy) puts his penis in their mouth. The most sensitive part of the penis is the head (or "glans"), so it feels good if this is sucked, licked or kissed. And many guys enjoy the feeling of their penis being moved in and almost out of the other person's mouth. So you can use your lips and tongue to slide up and down the penis, slowly, quickly, or whatever.
  • Use your hands. Some girls (and guys) find that it's hard to hold their mouth around a penis, or that their mouth or jaw gets tired pretty quickly. So you can use your hand as an alternative to your mouth, as a way to rest your mouth. Or use your hand to slide up and down the shaft of his penis, while using your mouth on the end of his penis. You can also use your hand to control how much of his penis goes into your mouth (as too much can be painful, and if it hits the back of your throat it can make you gag). It also helps to use a sexual lubricant, as this makes everything nice and slippery.
  • Find a rhythm. Whether you're using your mouth or your hand, find a rhythm that seems pleasurable to the guy. This can be slow, or fast, or moving from slow to fast and back to slow. Many guys like the person to keep going when they're about to have an orgasm (to ejaculate or 'cum'). And some guys want the person to stop straight afterwards, as everything feels too sensitive. Find out what feels good.
  • It's up to you whether he cums in your mouth. Many guys like the feeling of ejaculating (cumming) into the other person's mouth. But some girls (and guys) don't like this. It's up to you. And it's also up to you whether to swallow the cum or not. 
  • Some girls (and guys) let the guy ejaculate in their mouth, but then spit out the cum or let it run out of their mouths. Another option is, when the guy is about to cum, use your hand rather than your mouth, so that he cums on your hand instead. And some guys like ejaculating onto their partner's body. Again, it's up to you.
  • It also helps if the guy is clean (he's had a shower recently), he doesn't shove his penis down your throat, and you're in control of how much goes in your mouth. Some positions make it easier for you to control this, e.g. if he lies on his back and you kneel beside him or between his legs.

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